I like people who get it done. Have a plan, take care of the details and are ready to go. If you're looking for someone to light the way, help you figure it out, then you're looking for a coach, not a partner in crime. Some relationships are meant to be that way...one helps the other to figure it out. That's cool, when the figuring out part is something I've signed on to teach and I know upfront that that comes with the relationship.
If that figuring out part is not something I'm interested in teaching, then the relationship is not a good fit. I look to partner with people in life and in work who know something I don't and that something is something I need. Then I have something to offer them that they don't know and need to know. That's called reciprocity which leads to relationships with room for growth.
Otherwise, once you've learned your primary life lessons and sorted out your purpose, you're complete, your life is full, you're happy. So you're not looking to partner with someone because you "need something from them to complete you." You're looking to partner because that relationship can add something lovely to a package that's already near perfect. Perfect in contentment...
So if you find yourself struggling to connect, that probably means it wasn't mean to be...and you should listen to the lessons that struggle is teaching. Things that are meant to be come together easily and are not frought with worry and fear. They are a surprising gift en route to a party that's already marvelously in full swing.